Mark wrote:
I've recently been to a number of Weddings/Funerals which required me to wear a suit....
I do not own a suit. It has never stopped me going to a wedding or a funeral. I went to a funeral today; the undertakers were wearing suits.
That's exactly what I mean about this board - it's for the principled minority, generally well-to-do middle aged white men....
The social 'norm' is to go to a Wedding/Funeral in a suit.
I would feel that it would be disrespectful to turn up looking like I'd just come off the allotment....
I think that would be the general consensus in society.
Mark wrote:
I've recently been to a number of Weddings/Funerals which required me to wear a suit....
I do not own a suit. It has never stopped me going to a wedding or a funeral. I went to a funeral today; the undertakers were wearing suits.
That's exactly what I mean about this board - it's for the principled minority, generally well-to-do middle aged white men....
The social 'norm' is to go to a Wedding/Funeral in a suit.
I would feel that it would be disrespectful to turn up looking like I'd just come off the allotment....
I think that would be the general consensus in society.
That rather depends on which part of society one inhabits. T the funeral I went to on Friday the undertakers stood out from the crowd of about 150 as they were in suits. There may have been a few others in suits but they must have been a small minority. The deceased was a 94 year old lady and she had gathered a pretty eclectic following but I'm not sure what the social 'norm' is. I don't think anyone looked as though they had just come off the allotment without changing but it can be hard to be sure in rural Lincolnshire.
Mark wrote:
I've recently been to a number of Weddings/Funerals which required me to wear a suit....
I do not own a suit. It has never stopped me going to a wedding or a funeral. I went to a funeral today; the undertakers were wearing suits.
That's exactly what I mean about this board - it's for the principled minority, generally well-to-do middle aged white men....
The social 'norm' is to go to a Wedding/Funeral in a suit.
I would feel that it would be disrespectful to turn up looking like I'd just come off the allotment....
I think that would be the general consensus in society.
I can categorically assure you that I may be white and middle aged, but am anything but "well-to-do" by any UK metric you might care to use.....
I was born with nothing and I've still got most of it left.
I can say that I own a suit . I brought it just after leaving school ( well my parents brought it for me) following advice to wear one for interviews and the like. It's a little tighter than it was but I can still fit into it and it's been worn so little it will probably out live me. I probably look as good in it now as I did as a spotty eighteen year old which is probably why it doesn't come out . Funnily enough my "smartest" jacket is an old 1980's East German army tunic in strichtarn camo .
After shifting 300 tonnes of earth by hand to a height of up to 8ft when building my cob house I can safely say that the suit I bought as an 18 year old doesn't fit me any more! I put on a couple of stone doing that.
kenneal - lagger wrote:After shifting 300 tonnes of earth by hand to a height of up to 8ft when building my cob house I can safely say that the suit I bought as an 18 year old doesn't fit me any more! I put on a couple of stone doing that.
Now that is something I would be very interested to hear more about Ken. I have often wondered how it would be to build a cob house.
Mark wrote:I would feel that it would be disrespectful to turn up looking like I'd just come off the allotment....
I think that would be the general consensus in society.
What a completely different attitude here in Ireland: it's far more inclusive and open, often with food, singing, music, chat and drink. Funeral're almost public holidays for many that knew the deceased.
Though the principal mourners often dig out black clothes so mourners know whose hands to shake, appearance is totally irrelevant.
I experience pleasure and pains, and pursue goals in service of them, so I cannot reasonably deny the right of other sentient agents to do the same - Steven Pinker
biffvernon wrote:There exist in England various sub-cultures. I guess the one I inhabit is a bit Irish (only without many Irishmen).
Heh. Whatever about funerals, the Irish would celebrate paint drying.
I experience pleasure and pains, and pursue goals in service of them, so I cannot reasonably deny the right of other sentient agents to do the same - Steven Pinker
Most of the funerals I go to are fairly formal with suits and ties but the rugby club ones, of which there have been too many recently, are less so with most people wearing club blazer and tie. Most involve food and drink after but the rugby club ones involve drink and food.
At one rugby club funeral recently we were having a really good time so the question was asked who was going to host the next party! Several people volunteered but one of them later suffered a fatal diving accident. Sad loss. As the man said "Never volunteer!"
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